‘Love,’ this English word: like other English words, it has tense. ‘Loved’ or ‘will love’ or ‘have loved’. All these specific tenses mean Love is time-limited thing. Not infinite. It only exist in particular period of time. In Chinese, Love is 爱 (ai). It has no tense. No past and future. Love in Chinese means a being, a situation, a circumstance. Love is existence, holding past and future.
If our love existed in Chinese tense, then it will last forever. It will be infinite.
I have to say that I totally fell in love with this book. It is not just only a love story, but also about experience and life of the writer in the foreign land. I’m so glad that I have read this book as it touched my heart and my feeling. Even her English is broken but it’s not a big problem for the reader like me to understand the story as things that she wrote are very common in every social like love and relationship.
The story in this book reminds me about myself as we both are Asian and we are raised in the similar culture. I would say that I totally understand how it feels. Being alone in different country, so far from home and different language that she is not get used to it. It‘s not that easy as I had been in this kind of situation before. She came from the eastern culture to western and seems very naïve about the new world just like me when I first went to England. Everything was new to me and awakes all my perception.
This book also open my eyes about” Love “even this word is universe but when you are in the new place you will find that this word doesn’t not mean the same in everywhere. It helps me gain new perspective of love and relationship as I only date outside of my race. This book is like her journey in the new land where she has to understand the language, culture and the man. The readers follow her journeys since she arrived to London with poor English and less understanding about new culture until her English better and leading herself into self-discovery.
Another thing that I like about this book is she wrote by based from her own experience and it is interesting because everything in this book is real. It grabbed my attention as I want to know what is going on next and what she would do with her problem.The attitude of her and her lover or even her self-discovery that she found later, these help me gain perspective about two culture, east and west and also my self-discovery after I finish read it.
This book has opened my vision and I realized that even you understand the language but it doesn’t mean that it can explain or you can understand everything especially love and relationship. I think that the main reason why I really like this book because I shared the same experience with the writer. We are young, innocence and one day we met a man who brought us into the new world. We got hurt and learn life lesson from our experience we lost nothing because all the way we have been through we got change to discover ourselves and grow up from our life lesson. There is one sentence from this book that I really like and it’s always in my mind “Sometimes I would rather look back if it meant that I could feel something in my heart, even something sad. Sadness was better than emptiness.” I think she is right and I couldn’t agree more with that.